Why does my mother compare me with a former best friend?
Kimbre asked the question:
I used to be friends with this girl in middle school. For some reason, my parents were enamored with this girl and always made comments on her complishments. I stopped talking to her because I grew tired of my parents praises for her and a resentment for her grew inside of me which still exists today. Even when we were in high school, I hated her because to me, she represented perfection in my parents eyes.
Now that we are older, she has recently graduated from college and got a really good job with this financial services company. I, however, am still in school and have about 2-3 more years to go (I can’t afford to go full time because I pay for my own expenses for school) and I work in p.r. which pays decent. I’ve become convinced that I’m not worth much because I could never measure up to her by my parents’ standards. Because of this, I suffer from depression and I’m insecure. Pretty much at this point in my life, I’m ready to give up and stop trying.
I hate to feel like this about myself. I’ve talked to my parents about what they are doing and they are in denial and accused me of being jealous.
Does anyone have any advice on what I can do for myself to empower me to overlook my parents’ ignorance?
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2 Responses to “Why does my mother compare me with a former best friend?”
You should live for yourself and not your parents approval. It is too hard for you to have to live in your friends shadow. You are doing what you can for the security of your own future. And you should be proud of yourself. It isn’t important at this time in your life to worry about what your parents are thinking. Right now, you need to think of your own happiness and know that what you are doing is good. Whenever your parents start to bring up your old friend, just excuse yourself. You don’t have to listen to them. You have voiced your feelings on the matter to them. You shouldn’t have to do anymore. You are doing what you have to for your own success. If you aren’t measuring up to their expectations then that’s their problem. Eventually, they will figure it out that talking about her is a touchy subject for you and they will not speak of her so much. Live your life the way you have planned for yourself. Don’t worry about them at this time. I know it’s hard to stop trying to please your parents, but right now, it’s what is needed in your life. You should be proud of your accomplishments.
soon your girlfriend is going find somebody else and say adios by by to you.wake up try to control the situation.tell to your parents shot up.or they never see you.your parents destroying you.i am happy that i am not you.good luck.